I really Hate that post going around telling you not to get married before 30, it's annoying so I came up with a few of the reasons getting married young does work. Elliott and I married at 22 and exactly 21.
#2) You get used to not spending a lot of money early on. When it doesn't exist it's much easier to not overspend. As we have grown earlier we are still not extravagant spenders.
3)You get to watch your partner in life change. Some for the good and some for the worse, but you are the person there every day watching this metamorphosis. I get to watch him grown up as he gets to watch me.
4)You know every little quirk the other person has. That fabric that makes me want to kill and burn the jacket he's wearing, yeah he knows never to get another one. His hatred of chapstick, I'm fully aware of as I watch his lips bleed from the cold. (This is apparently the more manly option).
5)You can travel after getting married.... marriage isn't a death sentence unlike what those other posts imply. We have lists of places we plan to go after I finish school.
6)School.... you get to experience the life as college students, then both feel the extreme difference of grad schools. You learn which of you has to study all the time to pass, and which merely cracks the book the day before the exam to ace it. Going through the extreme stresses of school has brought us closer together. The blood (paper cuts ya' know?), sweat (running to classes, carrying a gazillion books and binders), and tears (tests, exhaustion, total fatigue) create a powerful binding process between two people. Late nights complaining about professors, and sharing our joy of learning, and forcing the other person to learn about the subject because whatever we are happening to study is so interesting has been a huge part of our marriage.
7)If you happen to take the same classes you get an awesome group project partner.
8)Grocery Shopping.. either one of you can easily run to the store and pick out the other person's essentials for exam weeks. You also both know what food can be had for the cheapest to keep you going.
9)Driving- In our case I taught my husband to drive on the interstate and drive cruise control, he taught me not to use the brakes constantly while driving on little back country roads.
10) More time together. Each of us has a finite amount of time on this planet, we want to spend as much of it as a family as possible.
11)A perfect time to get married is not when your life is perfect, when you have the great job, great house, savings, and have done everything you ever wanted. This to me is asking for disaster. Your life will only get less perfect after marriage and you will become resentful of your partner. Marriage is about the joy of discovery and living life together. Not living 2 separate lives that happen to revolve through the same front door.
12) You have some idea of what you want in a marriage, but are not too set in your ways. You can be flexible and allow yourself to change when your idea of a perfect marriage isn't working out perfectly.
13)Kids= awesome, we love being young parents and being able to crawl all over the floor, wedge ourselves into tight spaces and play hide and seek. We are still young enough to remember the joy of childhood.
14) You don't need to have all the cash in the world before marriage, you are supposed to be working together! Saving up everything would be nice, but why do it separately if you already know who you want to marry?
15)Marrying a good partner is priceless when one person can finish school before the other and take over bill payment and household management for a few years.
Now this is a very rambling list, I've been out of school for 3 weeks, and my hand is starting to ache from lack of typing for a while. So I'm ending here.
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